I’m a slightly bionic, geeky, midlands-based gay man rebuilding life after a difficult decade. Hip replacements, loss, loneliness, and a reset brought me back to basics—and into a journey of rediscovering who I am. This blog is where I unpack that process: health, confidence, kink, friendship, grief, growth, and everything in between. Expect honesty, self-reflection, a bit of tech and local curiosity, and the story of becoming a more comfortable, connected, slightly older gay man—one step at a time.
The dreams keep changing. Witches, thorns, impossible cities, hidden worlds and now a room infected from within. But underneath all of them seems to be the same message. Stay put. Don’t risk anything. Don’t change. And honestly? I’m getting pretty bloody tired of listening to it.
Keep readingSomewhere between the nightmares, the strange dream worlds, the loneliness and the slow process of recovery, I’ve realised that what I’m looking for isn’t really change. It’s trust, friendship, connection, and permission to stop fighting myself quite so hard.
Keep readingToday felt a little different. I’ve only recently started getting back into the gym, and while my strength isn’t where it used to be, I’m enjoying the process. There’s something reassuring about focusing on the basics again: good form, completing the set, and accepting that progress takes time. One thing…
Keep readingAs someone returning to the leather community after years away, the reaction to Honey Davenport winning IML has been both revealing and disheartening. This isn’t really about one person winning a title — it’s about who gets to belong, how narrowly we define “community,” and whether leather culture still has…
Keep readingToday’s blog is about spoons. Oh, and exhaustion, tiny moments of attraction, and learning that recovery isn’t just about pushing harder — sometimes it’s about learning how to rest without disappearing.
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